We have three boys, ages 22,25,and 28. They are all delightful. Then we have the baby girl on the end. She is 20 years old and in college now but she’ll always be the baby girl. Her brothers adored her when she was born. Now that they are all older they rely on her for advice on haircuts, clothes, and engagement rings. It makes my heart melt when I remember her being asked to go engagement ring shopping with two of her brothers. One of my greatest joys as a mother is to see my kids have close adult relationships. I love my relationship with her because she is a mini-me and we enjoy so many of the same things.
One of the best relationships in our family to watch is the relationship that my husband has with our daughter. My husband is a quiet man for the most part and he can usually be found in his recliner at the end of a very long day. Somehow, quietly, they have carved out a relationship all of their own. I could give a lot of examples but instead I will share with you what she wrote in his Father’s Day card this year.
“Happy Father’s Day! You have given me your love for the beach and the outdoors, your hazel eyes, your unconditional love, and the ability to appreciate the beauty of a smile. Not a day has passed where you have forgotten to tell me how beautiful I am. Your even-temper, kind, compassionate heart has set the bar high on what I deserve in a man. I love you!”
If we think our kids are not watching us, we are mistaken. I cried like a baby when I read this because isn’t this what every little girl deserves. I feel so lucky that my baby girl knows she is worthy of unconditional love.
Ta ta for now. Kiss kiss.
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