Have you ever put on a pair of Spanx? The longest period of time I have worn a pair is perhaps six hours. What is the longest you have worn a pair?
Do you remember how they felt when you first pulled them on? A little tight but after a few minutes they started to feel normal. Then came the end of the day and it was finally time to pull them off. It was a little uncomfortable as the shedding of the constriction commenced. Little by little you were freed from the bondage until finally the Real You finally spilled out! Freedom! You tossed that balled up Spanx off to the side vowing in that moment to never wear them again. After they were discarded into a heap you felt the Real You finally able to spread out and move about freely. No longer were you concerned about what others thought about your outward shape. You stepped into your comfy, loose clothes and rejoiced in your new freedom.
What if this is what it is like to be born? A little tight and uncomfortable but you adjust to what becomes your new normal. You like what you see outwardly and are proud that the Real You is encased in a sleek package.
As you venture out in your new package, you have a great time meeting new people and having experiences. You love the overall experience. You find great pleasure in the experiences you have with the people you love.
Shedding our packaging
Then it is time to go Home. You do not realize how constricting this outer shell feels until you get there. All of a sudden you realize that no one there is concerned about this outward appearance. So you step out of that shell and discard it in a messy heap. Now the Real You is free and you realize that no one who loved you while you were wearing the shell ever noticed or cared about how you looked. All they ever noticed was the Real You and they love you still. They always knew what was inside that package.
I think this is how my son feels. I imagine he is soaring.
Peace and love.
She writes about life, death, grief, and recovery.
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