37 Things that I Learned in 2017

By on Jan 2, 2018 | 6 comments

When 2017 began I was beginning my third month as a bereaved parent.  As I reflect upon the past year I realize that I have learned a lot about myself and how I have grown as a person. There are many parents from all over the world who have lost children.  I am not alone. If I look and listen to my soul, there is an opportunity for spiritual growth in abundance. This experience creates the space to simplify life socially, physically, emotionally. There are beautiful people in the world who will love me in the most unexpected ways. I have learned a new level for compassion that I didn’t know I needed to learn. I have learned to cut through the pretenses of life and the beauty of living authentically. I am becoming the “me” that I was always meant to be. I have the opportunity to help others in grief. I have had the opportunity to bring attention to society the issues...

The Second Christmas

By on Dec 22, 2017 | 4 comments

It’s been 14 months since my son passed away and it’s our second Christmas without him.  I have met so many parents who have experienced a loss like my own.   They always feel the loss but are especially missing their children this time of year. When I first became a mother I had no idea that I could love my children with the fierce intensity that I do.  When you love someone that much and they pass away, naturally the grieving process is going to be met with an intensity to match the love. I have had so many emotions since the loss of my son.  Sorrow naturally, but there was a point early on when I felt anger at him.  I didn’t want to feel anger at him especially when he wasn’t here to atone for what was my perceived impression of his offense .  His offense in my mind was how could he leave me?  Didn’t he know how much I would miss him?  Didn’t he know how he would change...

12 Things You Can Do For A Bereaved Friend At Christmas

By on Dec 10, 2017 |

The second Christmas since my son’s passing  is coming up.  I will be honest, last year’s Christmas was really hard.  It wasn’t because anyone was unkind.  It’s just because 29 of my 57 Christmases were so full of memories that included him. Memories of Christmases past flooded my mind during the entire holiday season.  Remembering the fun of Santa, the year he got the Nintendo 64 he was dying to get, and watching videos of Christmas mornings were so bittersweet.  Also, I am in  the beginning stages of Empty Nest Syndrome so the challenges and changes that come with that are new to me as well. I would like to share some of the ways that a friend can brighten someone’s Christmas who is bereaved.  My definition of bereaved is anyone who has lost a very close loved one regardless of the length of time since the passing.  There is no timetable for grief.  The...