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God Winks and Synchronicity

By on Aug 25, 2019 | 7 comments

Have you ever had an experience of two or more events which occur in a meaningful manner, but seem unrelated? The chance that they would occur together must be very small. This is called synchronicity. It is also referred to as a God Wink, defined as an event or personal experience often identified as coincidence, but is so astonishing that is seen as a sign of divine intervention, especially when perceived as the answer to a prayer. I have experienced God Winks, signs, and synchronicities from the first day of my son’s passing. In the beginning, I doubted whether these events were truly a connection with my son’s spirit, or merely wishful thinking. When sharing these experiences with those who have not lost a child, I sometimes wonder if they think that I have lost my mind. However, I have yet to talk with a bereaved parent that has not experienced this phenomenon. The love bond...

How I Reclaimed My Life After Child Loss

By on May 18, 2019 |

Child loss stinks. When I became a parent my hormones kicked in and I had the instinct to nurture, feed, and protect this child. My life revolved around finding ways to provide for this child. Once I had multiple children, I realized that each one had a different personality and different needs. My heart adjusted and made room for each one. I think of my heart as being divided into equal parts for each child. In each room, a different child resides. Different activities happen in each room. Depending on the age of my child, it might be preschool, a sport and the activities surrounding it, college, marriage, or their own children. After my oldest child passed away, the room appeared empty. I thought all that remained of him on earth were the photographs, trophies, toys, and memories. What was I supposed to do with that now empty room in my heart? He no longer texted or phoned to check...

Being Authentic

By on Apr 29, 2019 |

In the South, women make a particular type of small talk. If two acquaintances come upon each other, one of them will say, “Cute shoooooes!” as a greeting and the other will respond, “I looooove your hair!” What follows will be a rapid fire catch up session. The questions, “How are the children?”, “How’s the school year going?” and “When ya’ll goin’ to the beach?”, are bandied about without coming up for air. If time allows, updates on Sally’s D.I.V.O.R.C.E. (bless’er heart), and who’s on the prayer list at church will follow. The only appropriate answers in this scenario are “Fine”, “Great”, “The week of Memorial Day.” No one is interested in hearing, “My oldest was caught drinking Friday night”, “We think Little Johnny is going to have to go...